Life is so challenging right now, and I know that parents and their graduating high school seniors feel extremely vulnerable. Traditional rights of passage like in-person graduation ceremonies are gone, usual support systems have been drastically altered, and it may feel like we are all floating around in this amorphous limbo that’s only filled with questions and anxiety. Financial situations have changed, so many carefully-made plans have been cancelled. Worst of all, no one has answers about the future. Faced with this kind of a situation, it’s completely understandable for many people to do their best to regain some sense of control over their lives. One way that parents and their graduating seniors are attempting to do just that is by seriously considering having these students take gap years, believing that delaying higher education by one year will be the solution to the current serious obstacles facing higher ed. Unfortunately, too many people don’t realize that taking a gap year is NOT the solution to the problems that they face, and that gapping without carefully thinking through this decision could result in many more complications and problems.
What’s so wrong with taking a gap year? Absolutely nothing! To be clear, I’m a fan of gap years, since they may encourage independence, more maturity, and a greater appreciation of education. Students who take gap years often begin their college careers with a deeper sense of purpose and clarity, and the motivation to make the most out of their higher ed. opportunity that they demonstrate frequently make them excellent role models for their peers. HOWEVER, the COVID 19 pandemic has permanently changed our world, and gap year experiences are no exceptions. When I read articles suggesting that graduating seniors deal with today’s uncertainty by taking a gap year (like this one https://www.forbes.com/sites/christopherrim/2020/04/28/thinking-about-taking-a-gap-year-due-to-covid-19-heres-how-to-make-the-most-of-it/#5ca92d7e111c ), I worry that too many families will make this decision from an uninformed place of fear, and that students could pay a high price for this kind of impulsiveness.
What’s the big deal? First, incoming first-years MUST ASK their college or university’s admission office for permission to defer. This means that the school in question will save a spot in the Class of 2025 for the students, and this student will not need to reapply for admission, if this deferral request is approved. NOT ALL DEFERRAL REQUESTS ARE APPROVED!!!! Just because you ask for one doesn’t mean that the school has to approve your request. All admission offices have a maximum number of deferral requests that they are able to approve without having the school suffer budget problems, housing issues, and other complications. Many schools have already reached their maximum, so don’t assume that your request will be automatically approved. Moreover, the school could approve the request but let you know that you will need to reapply for financial aid and that your current award will not wait for you. The worst case scenario here is that the school denies your deferral request, and instructs you that, if you wish to take a gap year, you will have to reapply to the school to be considered for the Class of 2025. Think about that: you just completed this long, exhausting, rigorous, and complicated process - does anyone in your family want to go through this AGAIN???
Next, gap year experiences before COVID 19 may have included everything from getting a job (and saving money for college), traveling abroad, and taking courses from a different university. The pandemic has made all of these things that much more difficult. As millions of Americans continue to file for unemployment, finding A JOB for recent high school graduates will be very challenging, let alone one that keeps the student relatively safe AND provides some kind of meaningful experience. Border remain closed so free-form traveling abroad will likely not be an option for some time, and abroad programs are severely limiting what small options are still available (making these aboard programs even more competitive). Meanwhile, many colleges and universities in the U.S. are restricting the amount of college credit that they will accept to transfer (for a variety of reasons beyond the scope of this blog post). If your student wants to take a gap year now, what is she going to do? How will she spend her time?
There’s also the emotional/social/developmental side of your student to consider. What happens if your student takes a gap year but her friends choose to go to college. How will your student make new friends during this gap year? Will she continue living with your family? Is that going to be OK? Will everyone be able to get along (parents and siblings included here)? Is the parent/child dynamic in a good place? How is the mental health situation here? Will your student be able to develop the kind of independent living skills that college first years have to learn? How will your student grow in autonomy? How will parents treat their new young adult?
And then there are the finances. How will taking gap year affect family finances? Is a gap year going to delay a parent’s retirement even more? Will your family’s financial situation be better or worse a year from now? How will this affect paying for college?
As you can see, one shouldn’t make the decision to take a gap year lightly. My interactions with students over the years have shown me that the best gap year experiences are the ones where students have made detailed plans about what specific goals they want to achieve and what skills they want to learn over a concrete period of time, and these same students have the ability to be flexible and amend their plans when life inevitably changes. If your family is seriously considering having your student take a gap year instead of matriculating at your chosen school, please consult the following trusted resources for more guidance on how best to plan for this: https://www.gapyearassociation.org/, https://www.gooverseas.com/gap-year/usa-fairs, and https://www.interimprograms.com/ .
Finally, if you’re convinced that a gap year isn’t the right fit for you or your child right now, take heart. All is not lost if this fall college and university courses end up being online. Online learning should not be the purgatory it has been over the past few months - your professors will have more warning and time now to prepare their coursework digitally. They will have more timely support from their IT departments to improve the online learning experience, and, most importantly, they will have some online teaching experience under their belts (keep in mind that, when the pandemic shut schools down in March, some professors had never heard of Zoom before, let alone knew how to teach using that platform). Read this recent article published on slate.com for more ideas on how to change your mindset to make the most out of online learning: https://slate.com/technology/2020/05/online-college-fall-2020.html.
Life as we know it will never be the same again, and that includes the college experience. Having a positive, growth mindset - one that is open to new opportunities even if they mean getting out of your comfort zone - will help everyone navigate this current challenge. Making rash, impulsive decisions from a place of fear, however, will likely lead only to more problems.
Little did I know last month how prescient my call to get out of one’s comfort zone was going to be! In such a short, concentrated amount of time, our lives have been thrown upside down. This global pandemic knocked everyone out of their daily routines and into a bizarre new reality unlike any we have experienced in our lifetimes. By now, you’ve all read what feels like a gazillion e-mails about COVID 19, social distancing, and “flattening the curve;” everyone has heard that “we are all in this together” time and time again; and we know to wash our hands with soap for at least 20 seconds as much as possible (personally, I’m grateful for my stash of hand creams, since they are being used A LOT to keep my hands from becoming completely raw). In short, there is a TON of uncertainty right now, as well as uncertainty’s friends fear and anxiety.
Compounding contemporary feelings of unease is the timing. Could it be any worse, really? March was already going to be a stressful month for high school families, as regular decision college admission results were going to be released throughout the month, often bringing disappointing and/or heartbreaking news to hopeful high school seniors. Add to that the deep sense of sadness and frustration because these same students can’t hang out with their friends in person and will likely have their graduation ceremonies cancelled, and the situation becomes even more bleak. I truly wish I could give you all hugs right now!
While I can’t offer information on when this pandemic will be over, I CAN provide my advice for high school students and their families during this challenging time. Please note that my suggestions are just that - my suggestions. They are meant to offer some helpful ideas and comfort - they are not replacements for talking to a professional mental health counselors. If you are concerned about your own or your loved one’s mental health, I urge you to call your Primary Care Physician to discuss identifying an area mental health professional, call the Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration’s (SAMHSA) Disaster Distress Helpline at 800-985-5990, or check out the mental health resources at https://www.mentalhealthfirstaid.org/2020/03/how-to-bethedifference-for-people-with-mental-health-concerns-during-covid-19/ .
For High School Seniors: $%^# this sucks! Yup, there’s no other way to phrase it. This was supposed to be YOUR time - time to celebrate you and your accomplishments, time to make more memories with your friends before you all head off in different directions in life, time for prom and graduation, and so much more. Instead, you’re stuck at home, frustrated and disappointed. And you have every right to be! This entire situation ISN’T fair, and it’s OK to be upset and worried. Please read this open letter to all high school seniors, written by a wonderful teacher in Louisiana here - I couldn’t have said this better!
If you’re concerned that you won’t be able to make the best decision about where to submit your deposit, know that you still have time. While May 1st has been the traditional universal deposit deadline, some schools have already pushed their deposit deadline to June 1st to give students more time to deliberate. To check to see if your schools have extended their deposit deadlines, click here. In the meantime, use the resources that you have available (printed brochures and booklets that you collected on campus tours and from your guidance office, school websites that often offer virtual campus tours, social media admitted student chat rooms, college and university LinkedIn profiles, your counselors and mentors, etc.) to get the information that you need in order to make the right choice for you.
Take comfort knowing that there are a ridiculous number of people all over the globe right now working *so hard* to figure out how to make your next steps not only possible, but awesome. That includes your high school administrators discussing how to help everyone graduate and get those final transcripts to schools, as well as government leaders reconsidering waiving or readjusting federal/state testing and graduation requirements. Whether you’re planning on starting college this fall or going overseas for a gap year, trust that the answers to your questions on how this is all going to work will come. It may take time and require your flexibility, but you will get through this and move on with your life!
For High School Juniors: I know that many of you are freaking out (if not on the outside, definitely on the inside). You’re right there with the seniors, worrying about how this pandemic is going to affect your future college plans. I get it, and I want to reassure you that, while I may not be sure about the details yet, you will be OK! This is a GLOBAL phenomenon that we are all going through - that includes every other junior on the planet, as well as all college and university admission officers, the entire staff of the College Board, and everyone involved in any aspect of the college admission process. We all know that this is going to be a highly unusual admission cycle, and that’s OK! Accommodations are already being made - some universities have already decided to go test-optional for just this cycle (to read more about this, click here and here, and to see a list of schools that are already test-optional, click here ). For students wishing to follow the latest updates on standardized testing, be sure to regularly check the following websites for new information: for the ACT click here, for the SAT click here, and for the AP exams click here. Trust that you will NOT be penalized for living through a pandemic! Colleges and universities will take this context into account when reviewing your applications this fall, and it will ALL WORK OUT!!!
In the meantime, you can do a surprising amount of research online! Take virtual campus tours, engage admission officers in online chats, sign up for college-related webinars, and ask current students and alumni questions about their experiences via LinkedIn and other social media outlets. While nothing replaces an in-person visit, you can learn a ton of helpful information from the comfort of your home, so that you will have narrowed your application list down and be very prepared to visit schools when that opportunity becomes available again. This is also a good time to use the internet to have a Plan B for your summer activity, in the event that the stay-at-home order is extended. Create a list of things that you could do from home that will still be meaningful for you (some jobs can be done online, if you’re looking to make money, while there are an increasing number of online courses students can take - including free MOOCs!). Also check out Coursera and EdX. It’s always better to have some options available to you just in case you need to revise your initial plans.
For High School Sophomores and First Years: It may not feel like it now, but you’re the lucky ones. Why? Because you have time on your side. You really only should be focused on your high school careers right now, as well as staying healthy and safe. College isn’t even a blip on your radar screen (or, at least, it shouldn’t be). Use this time at home to explore subjects that you have been interested in, but never had the time to investigate - until now. Read a book you’ve been wanting to read for fun! Learn how to cook, so you can help out at home (same goes for learning how to clean your home correctly and how to safely do laundry). Plant a garden when the weather is better. Your imagination is your only limit! And, if you’re feeling helpless in the face of the pandemic, remember that you ARE contributing to society by just staying home and not hanging out with your friends! You can also do good by learning to sow masks, by organizing a fundraiser to help those in need right now, by writing cards to the aging adults living in nursing homes, by checking on your neighbors to see if you can help them (be sure to social distance and use gloves if you’re bringing them groceries, for example), by reconnecting online with relatives that you haven’t talked to in a while, and by doing so many other activities. Helping others is a wonderful way to feel better, because you know you’re making a HUGE difference in another person’s life!
For Parents: Simply put, you’ve been tasked with the impossible: having to work from home (if you’re lucky enough to still have a job), home school your children, run a household, AND maintain calm during a period when everything has been thrown into disarray. Some of you have the additional stress of taking care of your aging parents, too. I know that you’re all feeling a tremendous amount of stress and pressure right now, so please remember to practice self-compassion. Breathe! You are only human, and you’re doing the best you possible can in this incredibly difficult situation. Take the advice of a wise local rabbi: lower expectations and clarify priorities. Don’t yell at your kids if they aren’t completing all of their homework assignments right now - this pandemic is challenging for them, too, albeit in different ways. Trust that your child’s teachers are doing everything in their power to help your child now, and they will bring your child up to speed whenever we are allowed to resume school again. Let that drive to be productive go! Your job is to listen to your kids, validate their feelings, and help them feel safe and secure. Talk to them honestly but in an age-appropriate way about what is going on and how to take concrete steps to stay safe (like the importance of washing hands thoroughly and for at least 20 seconds). Try to establish some kind of routine, since that structure will help everyone in the household feel more stable (you will feel better, too). Most of all, use this historic moment to teach your children how to be resilient in the face of obstacles. Model good coping skills to your kids - they are looking to you to see how you meet these challenges. We are ALL out of our comfort zones now, whether we want to be or not. Help your children learn that they will get through this, and come out stronger and better equipped to navigate the world when it’s time to leave the nest.
For everyone, please stay join touch with your school counselors, teachers, and administrators to keep up-to-date on your latest school information. Keep a regular sleep and exercise schedule, and try to maintain a somewhat healthy diet (comfort food may be necessary, but make sure to have some vegetables, too, since your diet, sleep, and activity levels all influence your immune systems and right now you REALLY need to stay as healthy as possible to fight this pandemic). Look for the good! Make it a point for the family members at the end of the day to each share one positive thing that happened, showing appreciation and gratitude. Most of all, be kind - to yourself and to each other. While we may not know what tomorrow will bring, we DO know that we truly are in this together!
Those of you who follow A+ College Consulting on Facebook know that I spent the last week of January this year touring colleges and universities in the Portland, Oregon area. While I was impressed by many things, including the incredible internship and experiential learning opportunities available to students in that area, I was most excited about one particular group of students that I met: the Hawaiians. At almost every one of the 7 colleges and universities that our college counselor group visited, I met students from Hawaii. Though each one had different academic and extracurricular interests, they all shared a common refrain: they were so happy that they chose to leave Hawaii to pursue their higher education on “the mainland.”
Let’s put this into context. Hawaii has 4 public universities, 5 private/non-profit universities, and 7 community colleges, not to mention special focus institutions. Clearly, Hawaiians have ample higher educational opportunities that don’t require flying 2,603 miles to Oregon or 2,471 miles to California. So, why did so many students choose to leave their homes to go such far distances for their undergraduate educations? I asked each Hawaiian I met this question and each one replied with the same answer: each one wanted to experience something new and different. These students wanted to be exposed to different environments, different people, and to different perspectives. And each student felt that he/she/they had grown so much because of this important choice, both intellectually and emotionally.
Hearing these sentiments from this group of students filled my heart with joy, since they were willing to take a good risk because they knew that the reward would be priceless. I also loved witnessing the self-awareness of these students, since they truly understood a crucial part of the undergraduate experience - the incredible benefit students receive when they have to function in an environment where a variety of viewpoints, ideas, and ways of seeing and living in the world intersect and engage in a dialogue every day (inside and outside of a classroom). Moreover, these first years, sophomores, juniors, and seniors seemed self-confident and mature, since they knew how to help themselves (meaning, they knew what resources were available to them at the their home institutions, and they used these programs, places, and people to get the assistance that they needed). In other words, none of these young adults were having Mom or Dad intervene on their behalf to solve their problems.
This last part particularly resonated with me, especially since I’ve been reading Julie Lythcott-Haims’ New York Times bestselling book How to Raise an Adult: Break Free of the Overparenting Trap and Prepare Your Kid For Success as part of the newly established virtual book club for members of the New England Association of College Admission Counseling. Though her book was published in 2015, Lythcott-Haims’ arguments about how “helicopter parents” have taken over every aspect of their child’s life are still extremely applicable five years later. Too many parents micro-manage and over-schedule their offspring to the point where the practice of them going to job interviews with their twenty-something child is becoming more and more commonplace! To me (and to Lythcott-Haims, a former Dean of Freshman and Undergraduate Advising at Stanford University), this hyper-involved parenting has disastrous consequences, creating generations of young adults without the resilience or even basic life skills to function without a parent hovering near by. To be clear, neither I nor Lythcott-Haims are advocating for child neglect or for minimal parenting! However, I support her calls for parents to encourage their children at each stage of development to learn appropriate levels of independence.
So, I challenge both parents and their students, as you research universities or as you’re deciding where to send that college deposit: please consider going out of your comfort zone! For students, this may mean seriously considering attending a college in a different state that’s further away from your parents or exploring different academic programs that really interest you but may not be what your parents want you to study. For parents, this may look like allowing your child to make his/her/their own decision about where to go to college or what to study, trusting that you’ve raised a smart and capable human being who can make good choices. For both, this likely means knowing that making mistakes is part of life, and that one of the most important skills to have is the ability to learn from errors and to bounce back from failure. To that end, let’s all emulate those amazing students from Hawaii who left home to learn - a person grows the most when that comfort zone is left behind in favor of exploration and discovery!
Now that the holidays are winding down and school vacation is over, it’s time to get back into a routine. While it may feel a little tough or overwhelming to return to homework and extra-curricular activities, every high school student can make it a point to add just ONE thing to their daily or weekly “to-do” list. Here are my recommendations:
Seniors: APPLY TO SCHOLARSHIPS. I know, I know, you’re still recovering from this college application business, and I understand. But trust me - you want to start researching external scholarships for college NOW (if you haven’t already been doing this). Why? Because there’s a lot of FREE money out there, so why leave it on the table? You’re going to be a college student soon and you’re going to need all of the money you can get! Moreover, think of it as good practice for college and beyond: you’ll get better at researching now as you use the web, your local library, and your guidance office to find matching scholarships. Furthermore, you’ll be able to practice your writing skills and get a resume into shape, both of which will serve you well in the future. Start with your local guidance office: they should have a list of school and/or city-specific scholarships, and and your counselors will continue to be excellent resources for help with writing essays and shaping resumes.
Juniors: START YOUR COLLEGE RESEARCH NOW. The rubber hits the road now, folks. The one thing you can do now that will make a huge difference is to START YOUR COLLEGE RESEARCH NOW (yup, I wrote that twice in capital letters on purpose - this is so important!). It doesn’t matter how you choose to begin, just begin this month. Visit a local campus and take notes on what you like or don’t like. Start some self-reflection on what you’d like to get out of your college years. Don’t know where to begin? Check out the book College Match by Dr. Steven Antonoff for a wonderful workbook on jumpstarting your college research. This is the perfect time to get this going, so that you don’t feel pressure later this year to rush through this important process.
Sophomores: PLAN YOUR SUMMER. Do you know what you’re going to do this summer? And I mean all of your summer, in specific activities? If you don’t know, then now is the time to start thinking and planning. If you do have an idea of what you will be doing this summer, does it include at least one college-related activity? Examples of college-related activities include (but are not limited to): being a counselor-in-training at your camp (it demonstrates leadership); having an actual paying job (wonderful if it’s in an industry that you’d like to explore further in college, but just having a paying, regular job is awesome, too); a paid or unpaid internship; shadowing a professional in a field in which you’re interested on a regular basis; taking a summer course (at a local community college or through a special college-affiliated program); volunteering regularly at one or multiple places; visiting a couple of college campuses to see what it’s like to be on rural, suburban, and urban schools; and so on. You don’t have to devote your entire summer to doing college-related things, but make sure that you’ve planned at least ONE college-related activity to do this summer. And right now is a great time to start planning!
First-years: START SOME SELF-REFLECTION. Seriously. I know that most 14-yr-olds will look at me like I’m insane when I suggest this, but one of the most important things that will help any young person make good decisions about college (and life!) is knowing oneself. Self-awareness comes from self-reflection, and what better time to start practicing this skill than now? One way to start is writing in a journal every day. It doesn’t have to be for hours on end - just make it a goal to write one or two pages every day (no matter whether it’s in the morning, afternoon, or evening). Doesn’t matter what you write about, it just matters that you write. After one week of consistently keeping this journal, go back and read over what you’ve written in the last 7 days. Do you see any patterns emerging? Themes? This may lead to some insights about what’s on your mind, and can help you cultivate self-reflection. Hate writing? That’s ok! Try taking one of these free online personality tests, like 16personalities.com. Answer a series of questions and learn about your personality type. What do you think about your results? Do agree with all of it, some of it, or none of it? Why? Discuss your results with a parent or close friend. You may be surprised what you discover about yourself!
If high school students did just one thing this January that is appropriate for their grade-level, they will all be well on their way to setting themselves up for success, both inside and outside of the classroom.
Ideally, end-of-the-year celebrations and festivities are supposed to be happy and joyful. Yet, the reality is that the holiday season is often anything but fun. High school seniors and their families are particularly vulnerable because of the prolonged levels of intense stress they’ve been experiencing during the recent months due to post-graduate planning. If impending family get-togethers are filling you with worry, try these 3 things to make the holidays a more positive experience:
Most of all, be present for the family and friends in your life! Tell them you love them and appreciate them. After all, giving thanks to those who have helped you get to where you are today is a “double-gift” - the recipient will feel your love, and you will feel good for having expressed your gratitude. And isn’t “giving thanks” the entire point of the season?
It's that time of year again: high school seniors are so exhausted from writing college essays that post-secondary institutions that looked *amazing* to the students just a few months ago are quickly being taken off of application lists because of the volume of extra writing required (and it is REQUIRED - don't be fooled by any "optional" designation!). I completely understand! Think about it: schools are asking 17 and 18-year-olds to encapsulate "their essence" in 650 words (can YOU do that easily?), keep up good grades in their regular classes, and THEN continue writing additional 500-1000 word essays on the meaning and value of a Jesuit education or on how the student would "convert" Martin Luther King Jr.'s "I Have a Dream" speech into a tweet and why (both are real prompts, the latter coming from the University of Vermont this year). Every year, we ask more and more from our high school seniors, and, by this point in the process, burnout is very, very real.
Yet, it doesn't have to be! Yes, students will need to generate some extra new content writing these supplemental essay answers, but there are things that every applicant may do to make this task less onerous. Here are some tips for surviving the "supplementals:"
- Most colleges and universities actually DON'T want to torture students with endless bizarre essay questions (I'm looking at you, University of Chicago, and your annual wacky, student-generated prompts!). In fact, if you write down the supplemental essay prompts from every school on that application list, you may begin to see a certain level of repetition. By this, I mean most of these schools will want to know the answer to "Why College X?" In other words, they will want an essay explaining what about this particular school appeals to you. DO: research the school online and find things that are SPECIFIC to that school - are there super-cool professors doing research that you want to do, too? Is there a particular program of study or center on campus that matches up with your own interests? The goal is to not only show that you have actually cared enough to research the particular school, but also to paint a picture of how you will fit in on campus. Do the legwork for the admission team reading your application: connect those dots and make it easy for them to see that you "get" this school AND that you will become part of that specific community easily. DO NOT: write that your parents are making you apply there, that the food seems good, or any other plethora of boring and generic answers. Do not repeat back statistics and facts about the school - the admission readers already know all about the size of the undergrad population and that the school offers a gazillion different majors. They care more about what YOU find amazing and awesome about the particular school. And if you can't find a single thing that gets you excited about this institution, why are you even applying there??
- Another very popular prompt across the board is the ubiquitous "Why do you want to study [insert your chosen major here]?" This one generates much anxiety, and understandably so. I'm here to tell everyone to take a deep breath! If you are undecided, that's OK! Use this space to discuss possible academic/career interests. The school does not expect high school seniors to have detailed "road maps" of their anticipated future lives! The admission officers just want to see that you've given some serious thought to what interests you academically, and to get a sense of possible directions for you (just make sure that what you write makes sense within the context of your entire application - for example, if your transcript and extracurriculars all demonstrate a passion for and commitment to the humanities and the arts, do not, then, write that you plan on becoming an engineer without having taken even pre-Calculus in high school). If you DO have some idea about your major, then don't worry about changing your mind. As I tell my students over and over again, there are no Application Police! No one is going to track you down on campus next year and ask why you aren't taking X, Y, and Z courses because you wrote about them in an application essay!!! Relax - write about what interests you and why, and see if you can connect some school-specific resources to your particular academic interests.
- RECYCLE!!! You do not have to reinvent the wheel every time you start a new supplemental essay! Feel free to copy/paste bits and pieces of one essay for College X and integrate those fragments into a brand new essay for College Y. Especially when answering the "Why this major?" question, you can easily remix your answer from a previous version of that essay - just tweak it so that it is specific to that particular school (after all, your academic interests aren't really changing here, but the school-specific resources ARE different). A word of caution: PROOFREAD! You should be doing that anyway, but it becomes even more important when recycling essays! The last thing you need is to write about your passion for studying biology at Vassar and then mention your excitement to work with Professor Z who is on the faculty at NYU.
If you use the advice above, the supplemental essay writing experience should feel more manageable, and stress levels should go down. If you find yourself still struggling, check out College Essay Guy's advice on writing supplemental essays, or shoot me an e-mail with your specific dilemma, and I'll see if I can offer some suggestions. Putting effort into writing your supplemental essays is worth it, even if you feel you're running out of steam. As John F. Kennedy once said, "Every accomplishment begins with the decision to try."
Throughout this summer, I've been volunteering my time at the Newton Free Library, holding weekly drop-in hours where students and their families have been able to come and ask me any questions that they may have about the college admission application process. Because of the success of this program, I'm happy to continue answering your questions about the ins and outs of college admission. Do you have a question about applying to college? E-mail me at firstname.lastname@example.org and you might just see your question show up in Ask a College Counselor! :)
For September, I've received some excellent questions, addressing issues from gap years to standardized testing. Here are my responses!
Question: "More and more schools are making the SAT optional. When does it make sense to submit them, and when does it not?"
Answer: I LOVE that more and more colleges and universities are going test optional! This makes the entire application process so much more student-friendly, since this move recognizes that not all student are able to test well (due to learning differences, anxiety issues, etc.). It also acknowledges that standardized testing has limited value in a truly holistic admission evaluation process. Ideally, I would love to see standardized testing being entirely eliminated some day, but, until then, I celebrate every new school that goes test-optional!
That said, if you're applying to a test-optional school and you have very high test scores (by this, I mean that your test scores are higher than the average test scores of the student body at that college or university - it's all relative), by all means - report those scores! It will likely only have a positive effect on your overall application competitiveness. However, if you're applying to a test optional school and your scores are below their average student body test score range, then let the rest of your application speak for itself. By not reporting scores in this case, your application readers will consider more important factors, such as your course rigor, grades, essays, and your extracurricular activities. After all, you want to present your best, authentic self in writing to these readers. For a list of current test-optional schools in the U.S., click here.
Question: "Does applying for financial aid make it less likely that a student will be admitted to competitive schools?"
Answer: As much as I would love to say that applying for financial aid does not affect admission decisions, the sad reality today is that it does. As the decades-long trend of cutting federal and state funds for higher education continues, most colleges and universities are pressured to find sources of money to keep the doors open. Increasing the amount of "full pay" students (i.e., students who pay full tuition for their entire undergraduate education) is one way to help alleviate budget shortfalls. This is even true for the wealthiest and most elite of schools, since they are always looking to increase their endowments and purchase new real estate (Harvard University, Boston College, New York University, and Columbia University are just a few schools that immediately come to mind that have and continue to purchase real estate in their areas). Unfortunately, this is just one of the many flawed ways that higher education perpetuates privilege and limits access for all who desire a post-secondary education.
The good news is that the vast majority of students who attend college receive some type of financial aid, in the form of institutional scholarships, external grants, federal loans, and work-study awards. In fact, during the 2016-2017 year, approximately 89% of undergraduate attending a private non-profit college were awarded some form of financial aid (this was the case for 83% of students attending public universities). Unless you have an oil well in your backyard, I always advise students and their families to apply for financial aid. Moreover, a handful of schools in the U.S. have committed to meeting 100% of a student's financial need (as determined by the FAFSA and CSS/Profile forms) and have pledged not to consider a student's ability to pay for college during the admission evaluation process. For more information on "need-blind" colleges and universities, click here.
Question: "If a student is planning to take a gap year, should that student apply to schools during the senior year or the gap year?"
Answer: Gap years are growing in popularity, and it's for a good reason: students who take a gap year between high school and college tend to take college courses more seriously and be more motivated, mature students when they arrive on campus. If you are thinking of taking a gap year, you should apply to colleges and universities during your senior year of high school. I recommend this because a) students change their minds all of the time, and what may seem like your dream plan in September of your senior year might not look so great to you by the end of your senior year, b) you're in school with a cohort of other seniors applying to college, so everyone is moving through this process together (this means that you will be a top priority for your school counselor who is focusing on seniors, and you will be able to commiserate with your peers - don't underestimate the value of peer support during stressful times!), and c) the last thing you'll want to do during a gap year is spend it applying to colleges. Once you have received all of your admission offers in the spring, you may then approach the school of your choice and discuss the possibility of deferring admission for one year (i.e., taking a gap year). If you are allowed to defer, this means that you will pay the school a deposit and the Admission Office will hold a spot for you in the following incoming class. This way, you can enjoy your gap year knowing that you will be attending your college of choice after your gap year has concluded. There is an important caveat, though - while most institutions will be happy to defer you for a year, your financial aid award might not be deferred with you. When discussing the possibility of deferring with your chosen college or university, be sure to ask about what will happen to your financial aid award and if you are able to defer it along with your admission. As long as you haven't deposited yet, you still have a certain amount of leverage with a school, and, if they really want you to attend and they are able to shift around their budgets, you may be able to negotiate a financial aid award package that will be waiting for you when you arrive on campus. Just remember that there are NO guarantees in college admission and financial aid, so always always always get everything in writing!!! For more information on gap years, check out Gap Year Association and Center for Interim Programs.
If you would like to submit a question to Ask a College Counselor, please e-mail me at email@example.com!
The recent announcement of Marlboro College in Vermont merging with the University of Bridgeport (read more here) brought me both relief and sadness. I experienced relief because it meant that Marlboro wasn't going to be added to the growing list of colleges and universities in the U.S. that have or are going to close their doors forever. Yet, I also couldn't help but feel sad, knowing that a CTCL school like Marlboro would likely be forever changed by this merger. Why? Marlboro College, with its close-knit community and exceptional intellectual rigor, has offered a supportive home for independent-thinking undergrads since 1946. Moreover, Marlboro has encouraged young adults to pursue their love of learning in a broad liberal arts context while preparing them for graduate programs at Harvard, Yale, Columbia, and many more (having an incredible 5:1 student-to-faculty ratio certainly helps). In short, Marlboro has been a place where students have always been at the center of its community.
Yet, most people have not heard of Marlboro College, and, unfortunately, too many people currently feel that, if no one has heard of the school, then it must not be a worthy place of instruction. Marlboro has always been a tiny school, but, like many other small liberal arts colleges in New England in particular, the student enrollment has been dropping while operation costs have risen. Add to that a decreasing amount of college-age students nationally and the trend of students feeling pressure to abandon the liberal arts in favor of more career-centered and technical training, and the result is college closure after college closure in the last academic year alone (35 colleges have closed since 2016, and many more have merged with other institutions).
Why is this important? Why should anyone care about some small colleges scattered across the nation that have had to shutter their doors? Big deal, right? If we haven't heard about these schools in the first place, then they probably deserve to shut down. After all, I want my child to attend a well-known college or university so that my child can have the best chance at success in life. At least, these are some of the reactions I have heard from both parents and students alike (to be fair, I'm speaking from a position of living in the metro-Boston area, a place saturated with higher ed and rife with elitism and snobbery).
I hear these false assumptions too often, and it's time to defend these so-called "no name" schools! First and foremost, attending a "brand name" college or university is NOT a guarantee for student success or happiness! This seemingly pervasive, insidious myth has been perpetrated by the PR machines of schools in the country for decades, partially because of the need to raise revenue due to the sweeping and consistent cuts to federal and state aid for higher education, partially in response to the schools' need to control and manipulate their enrollment numbers (blame the U.S. News and World Report rankings for adding to this frenzy). In other words, the more students apply to a university, the more students their Admissions Office can reject, and the better "their numbers" look on paper (making their rankings go up and increasing their prestige). One case in point - Northeastern University. Just 20 years ago, Northeastern was largely considered a regional commuter school that accepted the vast majority of applicants. In 2018, Northeastern University boasted an acceptance rate of 19%!!!! This means that it is now harder to get accepted to Northeastern than it is to gain admission to such esteemed institutions as Carnegie Mellon, Emory, Bates, Wellesley, Vassar, Boston University, NYU, and RISD.
How did this happen? Sure, there was an investment in the campus infrastructure and a cap added to class size, along with a notable effort to recruit more students from outside of the area. Yet, the true key to Northeastern's incredible success lies in the institution's determination to raise its rankings in the U.S. News and World Report (read more about this here). This meant that their PR department went into overdrive, and the result is that, if you stop any high school student within a 25-mile circumference of Boston, they are likely to tell you that they want to apply to Northeastern because of their co-op program.
The truly sad part to me is that, if pressed further to explain their desire to attend Northeastern, these same students are at a loss. They have uncritically consumed the brand messaging from this particular university, and, because of the school's name recognition and rankings, think that this is a great place for them without any consideration for what a true college fit means or looks like. And Northeastern is not alone here. While I know that "name brand" schools like Northeastern are great places for some students, too many families overvalue prestige and name-recognition, at the price of true fit and a student's well-being (broadly defined here - I'm talking about considering how well a student fits in academically, socially, emotionally, career-wise, and financially).
And this "fit" cannot be determined by a school's magazine ranking, by their acceptance rate, or by anything other than the student in question herself. For example, as I mentioned above, students who tell me that they want to attend Northeastern consistently to cite the school's co-op program as their main motivation for applying. Yet, these same students are unaware of or not interested in a place like Endicott College, a small school just over 30 miles north of Boston. While a student may easily graduate from Northeastern *without having participated in a single co-op*, Endicott REQUIRES all students to complete at least 3 internships in order to graduate! If experiential learning is truly a cornerstone of the promised Northeastern experience, why is not a requirement for the B.A. or B.S. degree? Meanwhile, Endicott grads will leave their alma mater with a deeper sense of self-knowledge, purpose, AND career training to boot precisely because they have had to explore different avenues and gain a variety of out-of-classroom experiences. Nevertheless, families seem to dismiss a school like Endicott, erroneously claiming that it doesn't offer enough academic rigor or will put their child at a disadvantage after graduation - all because it doesn't offer the "brand name" that other places do or has a higher admittance rate than other schools.
This is why the disappearance of too many small liberal arts schools deeply concerns me. A small, supportive school like Endicott could be a wonderful place for the right student, and the College will certainly prepare their graduates to succeed in whatever endeavor they choose. Yet, these kinds of higher ed gems are losing ground because of the myth of hyper-selective schools somehow offering a better experience for students. These families forget that gaining admission does not equal success or happiness. Today, only 41% of first-time full-time college students earn their undergraduate degree in 4 years - less than half! This is largely due to financial difficulties, as well as to increasing transfer rates extending the time that students take to complete all graduation requirements. These statistics just make it even more obvious to me that FIT MATTERS MORE THAN THE BRAND NAME! Our culture needs a broader mindset when it comes to college admission. Higher education remains a key component to improving a person's life (whether it means moving up the socio-economic ladder or an improved quality of life and mental health). Students need to identify the best places that will support their individual needs and desires, not sacrifice their well-being to gain a diploma with a fancy name on it. After all, what truly matters are a student's motivation to make the most out of the opportunities that college provides and the skills that she learns during her undergraduate time - these things lead to personal fulfillment and career success, not being able to boast about attending a highly selective school. My hope is that more families truly see this, and have an open mind to send their children to "no-name" schools that are the right fit. Otherwise, small liberal arts schools like Marlboro will become relics of the past, increasingly replaced by the corporatization of higher education.
As the school year begins to wrap up and high schoolers are preparing for final projects, final exams, and graduation activities, it’s time to start planning for the summer! Some of you will already have chosen camps to attend or made travel plans. Fantastic! But for those of you have not had a chance to think about this summer yet, don’t freak out! You still have ample time to map out summer activities that can be both fun AND helpful for your college journey. Whether you’re a high school student or a parent of one, here are some suggestions on what everyone can be doing now to make the most out of the upcoming summer months.
For high school first years (rising sophomores): Congratulations! You’ve almost survived your first year in high school! Woo hoo! Now go have fun and enjoy your summer - you deserve it! And, if you feel ambitious, perhaps consider devoting some time this summer volunteering at a favorite non-profit organization or charity. Ideas include spending a few hours a week volunteering at a local food pantry, animal shelter, neighborhood “clean-up” project, etc. Not only will you feel great helping others, you will also have an awesome activity to add to your resume. Plus, you never know who will meet when volunteering (such as a future internship or job connection)!
For sophomores (rising juniors): You are in an excellent position - in addition to fun activities this summer, you have a chance to devote some of those July and August days to a variety of activities that will give you a leg-up on that very important junior year! While you don’t have to do all of the following suggestions, it’s a good idea to at least do one of the following things:
For juniors (rising seniors): This summer is super-important for you! Use this time wisely, since it can effect the quality of your life this coming fall. Why? Because the more work on your college applications that you are able to complete over this summer, the easier your life will be when your senior starts and you’re stressed out over your courses and extracurricular activities. And before I hear any groans, a little planning goes a long way. Even if you set aside only 1 hour/week during this summer to work on college application-related activities, you will be surprised how much you can accomplish. For example, aim to complete your college application list by the end of June (meaning that you will have a pretty solid list of schools that you want to apply to, balanced with a few “reach” schools and mostly “target” and “likely” schools). The Common Application has already released its personal essay prompts for the 2019-2020 application season, so you can use July to brainstorm, draft, and polish that all-important college essay. Then, the Common Application goes live on August 1st, so you can spend August completing the online form and get a jump start on those supplemental essays. If you do these things for just one hour a week over the summer, you will be in excellent shape when September rolls around, and your college stress will be greatly reduced (since you will have already done so much work on your applications!).
For seniors (getting ready to enter college): First of all, you deserve to celebrate. After you’ve completed all of your final exams and projects, savor senior activities and your graduation activities! You’ve worked so hard and you deserve to recognize all of your accomplishments! However, once the parties have ended, you should start preparing for your transition to college. I highly recommend getting a copy of Harlan Cohen’s book The Naked Roommate, since it is chock full of fantastic advice on how to navigate this exhilarating but also stressful transition. He also has great advice on his website, and his TED Talk will make you laugh while teaching you how to successfully navigate your transition from high school student to college first year. Next, when shopping for your college dorm supplies, do not fall trap to the advertising hysteria! You will be bombarded with all sorts of stores wanting you to spend your and your parents’ money there, but resist! Instead, contact your college and university and find out exactly what will be provided in your dorm room (so you don’t have to buy it). Also, once you receive your roommate information, coordinate with your roomie on who will bring what - I’m thinking of the things that you can share (ex. cube refrigerators, microwaves, tea kettles, coffee pots, etc.). After you’re done shopping, make sure that you know how to basic “life skills” things - can you do your own laundry without a disaster occurring? Can you open your own checking and savings accounts? Do you know how to cook something basic for yourself? What medications do you take, when do you take them, and do you know how to obtain refills? While some of these things may seem obvious, every first-year college student needs to know how to do these things. The summer before you begin college is a great time to make sure you know some basics when it comes to “adulting.”
Summers offer wonderful opportunities for growth, exploration, and preparation, so be sure to plan ahead and have both a fun and educational time this July and August!
The recent indictment and arrest of 50 people, including celebrities and business leaders, for racketeering, fraud, and money laundering may have shocked people across the United States. I certainly was bombarded with questions from friends and family about my thoughts on the crimes committed by parents, college coaches, College Board administrators, and by others. While this particular case is far from over, and I'm sure that new outrageous details will emerge as the criminal proceedings continue, Operation Varsity Blues already offers all of us some valuable lessons and important insights into the state of higher education in the U.S. today. Here are the 3 most significant things that we all should take away from this scandal:
Operation Varsity Blues is horrific, but it's important to understand how and why such egregious behavior could occur. While 50 people may have been arrested and charged with committing crimes, far more of us have been guilty of buying into the myth that greater selectivity must mean a better education or college experience. In a way, this fever for elite schools has been fed by parental and student misconceptions, with colleges and universities only stoking that fire for their own benefit. True change will only come when we all stop perpetuating this false belief that getting into elite schools is the key to future happiness and success. Instead, let's focus our energies on identifying the schools that will support each student's individual academic, social, emotional, and financial success. A good place to start is by making sure that we all encourage ethical behavior in our actions and our words. It may be a cliche but it's true: honesty is the best policy.
Maruta Z. Vitols is an independent educational consultant in the metro-Boston area. When not helping students achieve their dreams, she enjoys hanging out with her dog, exploring new places with her husband, and doing yoga.